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Monday April 22. 2024

 11:49am  Tita:  Victor has always been a good man, salt of the earth, kind, honest, giving, loving all of his life, from what I can tell, from my conversations with his mom and his dad.  A model son.  

        With me has was a model husband.  He was amazing.  Victor, since I met him what did I tell him?  You are a good person and whoever takes advantage of your sweetness and your niceness, FUCK THEM!  Almost six years later since Victor and I met it is coming to  fruition.  It has taken him a long time, but he now understands, he didn't believe me at first, that I was in love with him and not Mount Shasta.  

        That's how bad his self-esteem and self-worth was.  Victor couldn't believe that he had fetched me, he caught me, like a fish at the headwaters.  Why?  Because like attracts like.  Victor is a lot like me, he has lots of my similar issues.  

Victor has always been good, but one thing that's happen in the course of time and being alone with no one to guide him, no good mother or good father to guide him, no good siblings or best friends, I told him this when I first met him, during the nine days I spent with him, I asked him you have been living here all alone with nobody to support you?  He said yes.  Since I met him he hasn't had his family's support.  He has had more support from strangers.  

Victor, as a result of being alone and not having anyone to boost him up, to say, "What's up with that Tracee hag?  She's ugly as sin.  Wake up, dude.  Get her out of here.  She needs to leave.  Don't get involved with her.  Don't give her a place to stay."  Nobody was telling him that.  This is why he got taken advantage of.  Because he didn't know, he didn't have anybody telling him let that bitch go.  Or that person us underpaying you.  Now he has that.  

        So Victor, because of how he was and because he was all alone, he was taken advantage of sometimes and that made him be a nice guy.  Very similar to me.  Victor has prided himself in being a nice guy.  

The other side to the Nice Guy is being a people pleaser, which means everyone gets their way with you because you're out to please them.  Victor is no longer a nice guy.  Victor is now understanding that, "Who cares if my head got all fucked up twice?  I still am a human being and I am intelligent.  I am naive sometimes, especially with girls and money, but that's okay."  He can be that way.  I am that way too sometimes.  We all need a second person sometimes, right?  

Victor:  Mistakes are our portals to discovery.  

Tita:  Victor has now had the benefit of someone who cares about family.   I know how much family matters and I knew that Victor didn't have a good family and now I understand.  So Victor, now that he is no longer Mr. Nice Guy out to please every person he runs into, he now knows he has the option to say no, or not now, or later.  

        Now that Victor is more honest about who he is he can be more honest about the people he encounters, now that he's not nice his family is going to react because they're not used to the new and improved Victor who no longer pussy-foots and is no longer Mr. Nice Guy.  

He may be a Good Guy, but no longer Mr. Nice Guy.